No one deserves anything

"I didn't deserve this after all the hard work I put in!"

Haven't we all said that, some time or the other? (I have!) Here is what I often tell myself when faced with such a painful scenario - No one deserves anything. 

You just get from one situation to the other. It's been said a zillion times but I'll still repeat it - Life's not fair. In fact, it was never meant to be fair. The best move forward and the others are eliminated, whatever the conditions maybe. That's how evolution works. No one really gets lucky all the time and no one is unlucky all the time.  If it was to be fair we wouldn't have been here. We wouldn't have evolved to the species we are today (not saying we're the most intelligent species ever, but its been 50,000 years since we started showing signs of communicating with each other). 

16 comments:

  1. I go back to two things when I'm in the everything-is-so-not-fair-phase

    1. Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. - Mark Twain

    2. Life is unfair. suck it up!

    Helps.....every single time.... :)

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  2. Great posting!

    One of the things that I am learning is if you don't "assume" an outcome, but only strive for "success", then you can never be let down! My two cents....

    All the best!

    Michael
    OutMaturity

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  3. @Michael Thats an excellent thought. In fact, you might find (or already know) learnings from Bhagwat Gita (http://bit.ly/JJOUs) interesting. It says something very similar to what you mentioned about work and reward. Also, OutMaturity is amazing :)

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  4. I enjoy your non-victim attitude. It's difficult to find people whom take responsibility for their outcomes.

    Melanie

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  5. @Melanie Yes, I myself slip into that mode once in a while. I found it useful to shake myself up from time to time. I enjoyed reading your blog. Keep going strong!

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  6. Tanmoy,

    Hello there! Thanks for the suggestion. I will make sure I check it out!

    All the best!

    Michael
    OutMaturity

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  7. I can't tell you how many times I've heard people say, "that's not fair." And my response is always as you say, "life is not supposed to be fair." Life is what you make of it. There are always opportunities. You just have to stay focused. Remember the old line from The Sound of Music - "When a door closes, another one always opens?" I think the key is to not spend too much time looking at that closed door :) Good blog. Hope you'll visit me too!

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  8. @Christine Thank you for your comments. Adding to what you said (which is so true).. it is also the experience of looking for the right door. What's wrong with that? The sheer joy and sense of accomplishment of opening the right door after much deliberation and struggle - tops almost anything.

    I was actually reading your blog and website. Checking out the comparision of blogging platforms by BKWine. Have subscribed to your blog, so I hope to read your future postings. Any suggestions for my blog?
    Cheers!

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  9. I love your positive approach. It's somewhat similar to my "don't give up" one. Whether or not life is/isn't fair depends on our individual outlooks. I know a lot of people who moan and groan about their lives while others, often with far greater problems to overcome, smile and look for solutions. Life isn't fair - nor is it unfair. We get out of life what we put into it.

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  10. @Penelope
    Thank you for your comment. I agree.. your comment about problems reminded me the time I was admitted to the hospital for a knee surgery (8 yrs back). I didn't have the smoothest post surgery recovery and was a bit depressed. The nurse took me to a ward where there were patients from a road mishap during some military operation. It took me like 5mins to feel good about myself. We take life for granted, don't we?

    By the way - I totally loved the design on your blog. Very professional. Have subscribed to it. Look forward to your posts and I would love to hear your opinion on the ideas I share on my blog.

    Regards,
    Tanmoy

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  11. From Speaking Tree , Times of India, Dt. 06 Feb
    It is never too late with richness,purpose, joy and love. No matter how much time you feel you have wasted or lost,it is never too late to make the most of the moment you are in. No matter how much mistakes you may think you have made,it is never too late to start moving in the positive direction.

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  12. It was a true topic for discussion. How come no further comments after Mar11. Would like to see more comments.

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  13. If no one deserves anything, then what's the incentive to work? That is, other than out of sheer obligation or coercion. If life is meant to be unfair, that means that life is inherently unjust. That means that the noble and the just are condemned while the subhuman parasites of the world are empowered. A world like that deserves to be plunged into eternal fire.

    If we are truly to be masters of our own destinies, as individuals with free will, then we must take an ax to every door that slams shut in our faces (metaphorically speaking). Rise forth with a clenched fist.

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  14. @Iggy I like the words you used to describe your emotions. If you notice the tone of my post - we are pointing to the same thing. Although in a direct sense I am saying - don't hide behind the word "deserve" and show some appreciation for the fact that a lot of times Life is unfair to you despite best intentions. The world is not rational all the time. If it was - it would be too predictable. Move on to bigger and greater things.

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